Monday, February 8, 2016

Man vs. Boy

Even though I am a High School Guidance Counsellor and crusader against bullying, I realize that there is a reserved place for "schoolyard justice". Sometimes it is the only thing that works. I have taught my 10-year-old son that if he sees somebody hitting a girl, he can intervene in any way that makes it stop. Obviously, I tell him to use words first - but use of physical tactics is not out of the question, if needed. Similarly, both children know that they can defend themselves if they are getting physically hurt by someone. Now that we have that little confession in the open, let's use common sense.
The story speaks for itself, if you read the article below. A cop says he is trying to teach his son to fight back. OK, fair. That is a needed skill or you can get walked on your whole life. That is where the 'OK' ends. Taking your son to where the other boy is, encouraging him to fight the other boy, pushing him on the other boy, and then getting a shot in of your own? Buddy, please. There is no manliness in this officer of the law - yes, the offender was a cop (which isn't a shot against cops, just saying he knows better). 
It is a frightening thing when we see men behaving like children. Not just because they know better, but because they now have man's 'toys', like this police officer who has a gun or a road-rager in a heavy box made of metal and glass with a lot of horsepower. Ruben, grow up and be a man. You are not a man. You are a coward. We may often think of what we would like to do to someone who is bullying our children, but in the real world, we don't actually do it! Real men exhibit self-control and reason. That is part of what makes us men, otherwise, how are we different from young boys?
Sit down Ruben, (hopefully in the defendant's box), only the real men can stand - and you have a lot to learn, boy!

Dad teamed up with 13-year-old son to fight 'bully'

An off-duty cop, allegedly trying to teach bullied son to fight back, was arrested for brawling alongside the boy in a scuffle with a 13-year-old student in the Bronx.
Ruben Caraballo, a Triborough Bridge and Tunnel Authority cop, surrendered Friday afternoon to detectives at the 43d Precinct where he was charged with misdemeanor assault.
Caraballo, 36, allegedly punched the victim, Justin Harris, in the ribs as Justin and Caraballo’s 13-year-old son, also named Ruben, became embroiled across the street from the Bronx Mathematics Preparatory School in the Soundview section.
"Make him bleed!" Caraballo urged his son during the confrontation on White Plains Road, according to Sean Harris, the victim's father.
"He's been trying to teach his son to become a man, but I think he (Caraballo) needs to be taught a lesson as well," Sean Harris told The Daily News.
Harris, a building manager, said there had been a dustup between his son and Caraballo's son at the school about two weeks ago.
The hostilities apparently resumed Thursday afternoon when Caraballo and his wife appeared outside the school at dismissal time. "He was egging his son on to fight with Justin," Harris said.
According to Harris, after the two boys briefly scuffled, they broke apart, and Justin began walking away. Caraballo pushed his son on top of Justin, re-instigating the fighting, and then Caraballo allegedly threw a hard punch of his own at the youngster, striking him in the ribs, Harris said.
What Caraballo did was "cowardly," Harris said.
"I try to bring up my kids in an upstanding way. We must act like we have a sense of humanity, and not resolve things like he did," Harris said.
Harris’s lawyer, Sanford Rubenstein, said the incident should be "an example to all adults.”
“No matter what position you hold, if you assault a 13-year-old child, you will be held accountable," Rubenstein said.
Caraballo did not identify himself as a cop at any time, and Justin only learned later that man fighting alongside the other boy was a law enforcement officer, said Harris.
An MTA spokeswoman said Caraballo has been with the agency since 2005. He remains on active duty but is restricted from carrying a firearm while the investigation continues.

Sunday, January 31, 2016

Overcoming Certain Temptation

I wonder how any of us could have passed this test at his age? Tim Tebow has become an object of ridicule in the media for many things - mostly due to his unwavering faith, and this one proved to be a boon for all the worldly reporters out there who don't understand that some people have moral compasses that are set differently than theirs. If you step back and consider that 30 or 40 years ago, Tebow would have been upheld as a poster boy for America for standing by his convictions (as opposed to Nick Jonas, it seems), it seems surreal that the vast majority of the world is mocking a man for not having sex with a woman who prowls on people with stated beliefs, just to see if she can break them.

Fortunately, Miss Culpo couldn't break a real God's man. I guarantee the temptation was there - how could it not be? - but Tebow broke her spell. How? I would suggest that because he has never given in to this type of temptation, he was stronger in the face of the biggest test. Isn't that why studies continuously show that preserving yourself for marriage leads to an exponentially higher chance that your marriage will be successful? Isn't that why we are commanded to be pure? As James MacDonald states, "When God says 'don't', what he is really saying is 'don't hurt yourself'." I admired Tim Tebow before for all of the persecution he willingly accepted during his football playing days for unashamedly standing up for Christ, but this is a new level of admiration. Well done, good and faithful servant.

Tim Tebow, stand up and be counted - you are a real man!

Tim Tebow's Model Girlfriend Olivia Culpo Broke Up With Him Because He Wouldn't Have Sex 

Former NFL quarterback Tim Tebow has been cut by several NFL teams in recent years, but it's his unwillingness to score with his model girlfriend that may have gotten him dumped off the field.
A report in the NY Daily News this week said that Tebow's girlfriend Olivia Culpo sacked him after a two-month fling because he wouldn't have sex with her. Tebow has said for years that he is saving himself for marriage. But he was reportedly very interested in Culpo.
"He was really into her," a source told the News. "He was sending her love letters and cute notes and professing his love for her."
But when Tebow wasn't willing to make an exception to his long-running abstinence policy, it became too much for the former Miss USA to bear.
"She had to break up with him because she just couldn't handle it," the News's source said. "He still hits her up, but she just can't deal with the sex thing. He's pretty adamant about it, I guess." 
image: http://images.starpulse.com/news/bloggers/1279398/blog_images/olivia-culpo.jpg
Interestingly, Culpo used to date singer Nick Jonas, who famously once wore a "promise ring", swearing himself off of sex before marriage. Culpo and Jonas started dating in the summer of 2013, and by September 2014 Jonas confirmed that he was no longer wearing the ring.
"This is a real growth in me and not something I'm doing anymore," Jonas said at the time. "But I've got my set of values, things that are important to me now at this point in my life and that's all that matters."
Because of that statement and others, It's been implied that Culpo took young Nick's V-card. But apparently, she couldn't pull off the feat with Tebow. At any rate, if this report is true, Culpo may want to select her next mate carefully, lest she get a reputation as a virgin hunter.
Sadly for Tebow, this isn't the first time he has split with a girlfriend over his chastity. He broke up with girlfriend Camilla Belle in 2009 and it was widely speculated at the time that Tebow's no sex policy bothered the Disney channel star.

Read more at http://www.starpulse.com/news/index.php/2015/11/28/tim-tebows-model-girlfriend-olivia-cul#fUpatDzcABqWJ7Ai.99

A Right to be Happy?

OK, well there are a lot of things wrong with this one...but let's step aside from the obvious, such as the fact that this person is still a dude despite the caption in the photo that he is a trans woman, and that he has chosen to be six instead of his chronological age of 52. He has loving, adoptive parents and siblings now, so nobody is hurt in this. Wrong! Barely mentioned is his wife and seven children. There are at least eight people here who are hurt - and we won't even know how far reaching this will be to them for some time. But does Paul Woscht care? It seems not. After all, this is all about him. This is what he says makes him happy. Incidentally, I am almost inclined to agree that he really is a little girl, because a real man puts his own happiness and feelings aside for the benefit of his family. Real men don't just leave their wives and children because they "aren't happy". Happiness is not a deserved right. I love a line from my favourite music artist, Lecrae. In one of his songs, he says, "If we fought for our rights, we'd be in hell tonight." So true. As men, as fathers, we don't fight for our own happiness, but that of our families'. Funny thing is, we find that in doing so, we are happy.

Paul Woscht, take a seat. Only the real men can stand up.

Fifty-Two Year-Old Man Lives As A Six Year-Old Girl. Seriously.

DECEMBER 9, 2015
A 52 year-old man is living as a six year-old girl. You read that right. 
The man, formerly known as a Paul Woscht but who now goes by Stefonknee, left his wife and seven children to go live as a little girl with adopted parents.
"I’ve moved forward now and I’ve gone back to being a child," Woschtsaid in an interview with The Daily Xtra. "I don’t want to be an adult right now, and I just live my life like I couldn’t when I was in school."
Originally, Woscht was going to live as an eight year-old, but his "sister" wanted Woscht to be the little sister, so Woscht decided to be six years old instead. 
"We have a great time," Woscht said in his naturally deep voice. "We color, we do kids stuff. It’s called play therapy. No medication, no suicide thoughts. And I just get to play."
Dr. Paul McHugh, a former psychiatrist-in-chief at John Hopkins Hospital, wrote in The Wall Street Journal that transgenderism is a "mental disorder" and that it is "biologically impossible" to carry out a true sex change. In fact, McHugh points out that "the suicide rate among transgendered people who had reassignment surgery is 20 times higher than the suicide rate among non-transgender people."